I hope there are some of you with smiles on your faces who didn’t have them last week. :) Here are a few more tips:
• Eat healthy foods. I’m not a low carb person. I like carbs. I need carbs. The key is moderation. Eat chocolate – just not the whole bag. Eat a steak – just not every night. Eat bread – just not the whole loaf. Eat close to the earth (I mean the food is unprocessed; not that you’re lying on the floor). :)
• Take up a hobby. Try something new. Learn something different. I have pretty much worn my family out with all of the stuff I’ve tried. I’m off the Bikram Yoga and on to Tai Chi now.
• It’s okay to be sad. Allow yourself to go through the stages of grieving (see http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/000617). If you don’t let yourself be sad, your grief will spill over when you least expect it and you’ll find yourself bawling uncontrollably if you step on an ant. And don’t mistake the normal sadness of life for depression. Everyone needs to be sad once in awhile.
• Go outside of yourself. Quit thinking about how you feel; think about helping someone else. Volunteer somewhere. And remember that when someone is mean to you, they are probably having a bad day. It most likely has nothing at all to do with you. They are not trying to hurt you or give you some sort of message by their behavior. You are not a bad person because the cashier snapped at you. It’s her problem, not yours.
• Be present in the moment. Be here. Be now. Feel the chair on your skin. Feel the air blowing on your face. Feel the mouse under your hand. Smell the plastic smells of your computer. Leave the past in the past. Welcome the future and let it unfold in its beauty without your worry hastening its blossoming prematurely.
• Just as you have to give yourself the okay to be sad, you must give yourself permission to be happy. I blame it on soap operas. No one is ever allowed to be happy on those shows. As soon as something good happens to one of the characters, something awful happens. Life isn’t necessarily like that. If you allow yourself to relish in your joy, something horrible is not going to happen. Again, live in the moment. Don’t borrow sadness from tomorrow.
• Listen to music. Let it wash over you and immerse you in its healing power. Try different genres and see what brings a smile to your face. I’m listening to Reign of Kindo as I’m writing this (http://grooveshark.com/#!/search?q=reign+of+kindo), and I’m smiling from the inside out.
• Forgive. Let go. You’re only hurting yourself by holding a grudge. You are letting the people who hurt you continue to hurt you. And forgive yourself. Nobody is perfect.
• Don’t compare yourself to others. There will always be people better than you and people worse than you. Just be you. Be the best you that you can be. Compare yourself to yourself and grow from there.
• Change your routine. There is safety in sameness, but there is joy in variety.
Now go. Be happy. Embrace yourself. You are loved.
