How to Be Happy -- Part I

I get asked all of the time, “How do you stay so happy?” My nickname at a few of my jobs was Sister Mary Sunshine, or sometimes just Sunshine. I usually smile and say, “I just have big teeth. It only looks like I’m happy and smiling all of the time.”

Really, I’m not qualified to tell you how to be happy. Happy is something I struggle to be all of the time. I walk on a tight-rope of happiness and sadness all of the time – who doesn’t? I have, though, learned a few tricks along the way that keep my walk a little tilted toward the happy. I’m going to share these tricks with you. I have to do this in a few blogs because there are so many of them. They are all somewhat equally important, so just take and use what you want. They won’t all work for you.

Who knows, maybe I’ll make you a little happier, and that, my friends is what life is all about…

• Exercise, exercise, exercise. No really, just exercise. Whether it’s walking the dog or running a marathon, just get up and exercise.

•Get some sunshine – every day. Go outside and face the sun. Walt Whitman said, “Keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you.” It’s true.

•I talked about personality types before (see June). Figure out what makes your personality type happy and do it. For example, if you are an introvert, make darn sure you get alone time – as much as you need.

•Find joy in small things. Whenever I see a cardinal, I smile. For me, a cardinal is a sign of hope, a little message telling me that everything is going to be okay. Figure out what your personal small joy is and bask in it.

•Believe in God. It is so nice to share the burden of this life. He can carry a big load.

•Remember that you are not alone. We are all connected by this crazy thing called life force. Look around you. You are never, ever going to be alone. Even if you were at the top of a mountain, all by yourself, someone is connected to you in spirit. Someone cares about you.

•Surround yourself with positive – positive people, positive TV, positive movies. Read the paper or the internet instead of watching the news on TV. Then you can skip over the icky stuff. I read a quote on Pinterest that said, “Spend life with who makes you happy, not who you have to impress.” That’s good advice.

•Sleep. Take naps if you need to. But don’t freak out if you don’t get enough. That won’t help you. Eventually you’ll just pass out, so don’t worry. Somehow you’ll get enough. And maybe you just don’t need as much as everyone else.

•Fake it until you make it. Get yourself up and slap on make-up and a smile. If you’re not happy, just act happy anyway and happiness will follow. And believe me, that smile you just slapped on is going to make someone else happy, so just go with it.

That’s all for today. There are more to come. I’m going to leave you with a quote from Mother Teresa: “Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” So smile. I’m smiling at you now. :D